Personal boundaries are the most important part of any relationship, especially workers. How to understand that they encroach on your boundaries?
Communication with colleagues can only be welcomed, but too close relations with the boss can do more harm than benefits. Studies confirm that the presence of close friends in the office is one of the main factors that increase satisfaction from work. But if you are friends with the boss, his power over you can seriously complicate your relationship. Here are a few signs that the relationship with the boss crossed the line.
1. You stopped receiving constructive criticism
Between the boss and a friend is a thin line, and with subordinates you have to conduct unpleasant conversations. If you are too close, then perhaps noticed that they stopped receiving constructive criticisms and tips that could help take steps along the career ladder. Most likely, he just doesn’t want to offend you.
2. You begin to feel like his favorite
This is often the first alarming call. You understand that you get the most “tidb” projects, you are more often than other employees, they call to have lunch together, give you more time. Following this path, you risk becoming an outcast among colleagues.
3. You are exchanging jokes for your own, and it is unpleasant to colleagues
There is nothing to worry about friends with the boss outside the office. But when you begin to release jokes at work that are understandable only to you, and exchange meaningful views, this can poorly affect the working atmosphere.
4. Meetings are more like friendly gatherings
If you have a close relationship, the border between work and friendly communication can be blurred. This can lead to the fact that you will stop receiving the necessary instructions and support from the leader, since you will talk more about your own than working matters. To avoid this, you can send a list of relevant topics to the boss to send the boss.
5. You are forced to meet outside the office
It is one thing if the leader sometimes invites you to have lunch together. But if working meetings are increasingly taking place at dinner, and they invite only you, then healthy boundaries were violated in relations. You have the right to work only during working hours. Otherwise, it is
worth diplomatically expressing discontent.
6. You pour a soul to each other
Even if they tell you that you can be completely frank and the opinion of you will not change, what you heard will not be forgotten. So follow the measure. If you notice that you are complaining to the boss on life, work and colleagues, learn to keep your mouth shut.
7. The boss begins to flirt with you
Meetings with the chef begin to resemble dates? It’s time to put an end to this. Such relationships interfere with work. The longer you allow such behavior to continue, the more difficult it will be to stop it.